If you find yourself worrying about money, work, family, relationships or your weight-- it’s time to stop it. Abraham-Hicks so eloquently reminds us, “The future experience that you’re going to walk into is lining up based on your current thoughts and emotions.”
Therefore, worried mental and emotional activity will attract more situations, events and relationships to worry about. Worry is useless. Worrying is like sitting in a rocking chair…there’s lots of activity—but you’re not getting anywhere.
The act of worrying is a misuse of your imagination. It’s you (passively) allowing negative pictures to run rough shod over and over in your mind.
So how do you stop your worry habit in its tracks?
Live in the present moment
Be here now. Those are the famous words of Ram Dass, a Buddhist teacher. Shut the door on the past and the future. You cannot change what has already happened. You must wait for the future to unfold. Over 2,000 years ago, Jesus said, “Which of you by worrying can add one cubit to your stature.” Pre-occupy yourself with the task at hand. Refuse to get pulled into worrying about the future or agonizing over the past. The past is history and tomorrow is a mystery. Embrace these facts. The present moment (right….now) is all you have and it’s where all of your power resides. Use your current moments wisely.
Stop allowing yourself to be victimized
If you’re fearful about your spouse leaving you, the stock market crashing, getting fired, being overlooked for a promotion, your latest diet not working etc.—you’re letting the (unforeseen) actions of external factors (people/events) to control your state of being. When you do this, you’re operating from a place of weakness and you most likely have an unacknowledged sense of powerlessness or unworthiness. Give yourself permission to take control of your life and make choices that aren’t dictated by the approval or disapproval of others. Ultimately, your peace of mind is under your control and your responsibility.
Consider the worst case scenario
Uncertainty is a major cause of worry. When you’re not sure how things are going to turn out, your mind can take off down a path of negativity like a runaway freight train without a driver. Take back control of your mind by thinking about the worst that could happen. Then accept that scenario as a possibility and work on developing a viable solution from there. This strategy will give you a sense of empowerment. “When I can’t handle events, I let them handle themselves.” once said American auto pioneer, Henry Ford.
If you commit to practicing these two techniques, you’ll get your worry ways under control--- and ultimately conquer the habit all together.